I got asked the other day why I write a blog and a journal... I was a bit lost really...
I have lots of different profiles and places on the internet, all that I use in different ways and for very different purposes
Journal - my personal notes, nothing really interesting and mostly written when I've got bored of reading and have nothing else to do. Documenting where I am, what I'm doing, how I feel. Sometimes it gets a bit emo and serious, but I'm usually too lazy to write in it.
Blogger - most of my rants and thoughts that I want people to know go here. Again I'm pretty lazy, and I only know of three people reading them (Alan, Tom and Rhianna - hello!) But I like to put down in writing these little rants that I have. It was supposed to be about music and all that, but there's too many people doing that better, so it's just what I want.
Tumblr - cool stuff I see on tumblr, this is more for me than anyone else - a collection of the best stuff I find online. Mostly snowboarding videos. Occasionally I get a pang of politics or the need to rant to a larger audience, so I post shit on there. I like to tell people what to listen to as well.
Twitter - well.... I don't get this anymore, the only good things are links...
Facebook - it's a promotions tool, so have lots of friends so you can promote to them, or ask favours! It really is a good way to keep in touch, but don't take it too seriously. Also, very good for checking out girls/stalking/perving... It's kinda nice to see what others are up to as well, if you care...
Hotmail - well, that's my email...
Not sure why I wrote this, but I'm sure someone will read it... maybe
Showing posts with label People. Show all posts
Showing posts with label People. Show all posts
04/11/2011
17/09/2011
Talk to strangers!
last night i had the best time yet in sydney, all thanks to a stranger!
after finding out as much as i could about alternative nights out here, i was still seriously lacking in someone to go with, so after drinks with the work guys i headed to scary canary, the bar attached to the hostel i’m staying in, where they play the same horrific and generic house shit every night, just like nearly every venue in sydney actually. thankfully i know a few people there, and i’m soon in the smoking area taking in lovely lungfuls of second hand smoke, and chatting to a german friend, from this i get chatting to some lovely swedish girls, then some nice finish girls too. i convince the swedish girls to come check out this club with me, but for some reason these two german guys end up tagging along as well (total cock block!) and when we get there, they totally bail on me :( after a bit of joking around, they still bail… but i clocked a guy with stretchers on the walk up, so heading back that way i find him ‘nice strectchers’ i say. it turns out the guy hasn’t been in sydney long but is staying with his brother, and is from adelaide. anyway, we get on so well, and are talking music all, so when we bounce from the bar they were in i lead them back to the club, only to find out there’s only 70 people in there and it’s $10 to get in… we bounce on, heading for the other night i’d heard of, after losing the brother we find this place, on the gay side of oxford street, wander in and it’s free, thanks to the box office being shut! get in and boom! it’s sweet dubstep and shuffle tunes, so i learn to shuffle and we have a great laugh. so glad i made that step to say hi! especially as i finally have someone up for hitting the cooler places in town with me, someone who has a clue about music! we’d be out tonight, but he’s broke :( so while it’s easy to meet people in the hostel, these guys just ain’t my style ya'know what I'm sayin'?
after finding out as much as i could about alternative nights out here, i was still seriously lacking in someone to go with, so after drinks with the work guys i headed to scary canary, the bar attached to the hostel i’m staying in, where they play the same horrific and generic house shit every night, just like nearly every venue in sydney actually. thankfully i know a few people there, and i’m soon in the smoking area taking in lovely lungfuls of second hand smoke, and chatting to a german friend, from this i get chatting to some lovely swedish girls, then some nice finish girls too. i convince the swedish girls to come check out this club with me, but for some reason these two german guys end up tagging along as well (total cock block!) and when we get there, they totally bail on me :( after a bit of joking around, they still bail… but i clocked a guy with stretchers on the walk up, so heading back that way i find him ‘nice strectchers’ i say. it turns out the guy hasn’t been in sydney long but is staying with his brother, and is from adelaide. anyway, we get on so well, and are talking music all, so when we bounce from the bar they were in i lead them back to the club, only to find out there’s only 70 people in there and it’s $10 to get in… we bounce on, heading for the other night i’d heard of, after losing the brother we find this place, on the gay side of oxford street, wander in and it’s free, thanks to the box office being shut! get in and boom! it’s sweet dubstep and shuffle tunes, so i learn to shuffle and we have a great laugh. so glad i made that step to say hi! especially as i finally have someone up for hitting the cooler places in town with me, someone who has a clue about music! we’d be out tonight, but he’s broke :( so while it’s easy to meet people in the hostel, these guys just ain’t my style ya'know what I'm sayin'?
23/08/2011
sex
Hello to the two people I know that read this...
This post was inspired by a rather rediculous post I saw online, that said "If a man comes during sex it's normal, if a woman comes is exceptional" or something similar, I'm paraphrasing.
I'm sure you know me well enough to know that I disagree! It all comes down to effort, and dominance. Men come because they are the ones putting the greater percentage of effort in, and are in charge of positioning. If a girl wants to enjoy herself more, she must be more active, either putting in as much effort, or changing the position into one which works for her. I know most guys would not complain about this! I only remember being with one girl who was totally assertive, in fact, she was pretty damn pushy as well, insisting she was on top and grinding away in a way that did nothing for me. I was happy to oblige though, knowing that she was enjoying it, and well, things would continue on afterwards.
Perhaps girls should stop worrying about how good the boy is, and work on making it work for them!
Also, what's the deal with the toilet seat thing? Putting the seat down takes practically 0 effort, while lifting it is more work (physically speaking, it's obviously not a big deal) but I've never heard a bloke moaning about have to lift the thing!
I've had a few bits n pieces to write about for a while, but I seem to have forgotten the others...
This post was inspired by a rather rediculous post I saw online, that said "If a man comes during sex it's normal, if a woman comes is exceptional" or something similar, I'm paraphrasing.
I'm sure you know me well enough to know that I disagree! It all comes down to effort, and dominance. Men come because they are the ones putting the greater percentage of effort in, and are in charge of positioning. If a girl wants to enjoy herself more, she must be more active, either putting in as much effort, or changing the position into one which works for her. I know most guys would not complain about this! I only remember being with one girl who was totally assertive, in fact, she was pretty damn pushy as well, insisting she was on top and grinding away in a way that did nothing for me. I was happy to oblige though, knowing that she was enjoying it, and well, things would continue on afterwards.
Perhaps girls should stop worrying about how good the boy is, and work on making it work for them!
Also, what's the deal with the toilet seat thing? Putting the seat down takes practically 0 effort, while lifting it is more work (physically speaking, it's obviously not a big deal) but I've never heard a bloke moaning about have to lift the thing!
I've had a few bits n pieces to write about for a while, but I seem to have forgotten the others...
14/04/2010
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
Which is why I've stopped posting on most forums... People just don't seem to be able to do anything cool these days. Maybe it's just that people on forums are mostly massive losers!
Anyway, what kicked me over the edge was someone thought recording an instrumental cover of a blink-182 song and putting on youTube was a good thing. I'm all for people learning songs, and recording them if they want - it's all good practice. They can even play the songs to some people to see what they think. But when the description is a big apology for not being very good and badly recorded then you've got to wonder why they posted the damn thing in the first place! If you think it's crap, why would anyone else like it?
it's the same reason I don't follow people (on tumblr or twitter) that post too much, or post lame-ass shit about their personal lives, I even filter my facebook friends so I can cut out all those 'friends' I haven't spoken to since primary school. It's not that I don't like them, but their lives are irrelevant and uninteresting to me, just as I expect mine is too them. It's nice to know they're there if I ever need to get in touch, but I don't need to know what they had for diner.
Remember that there is a home for everything, especially on the net, as far as I'm concerned my tumblr is fairly impersonal, it's for random shit I think is cool or interesting. My blog (which is imported to facebook) is for wordy stuff and my thoughts - like this. Twitter is personal, but non-specific and is pretty much just what I'm doing or planning, and Facebook is for me to contact my friends. I'm a lazy texter, so I'm all about facebook!
Went a bit off-topic there... If you're filling up the internet with stuff that isn't awesome, then you're just adding to the endless sea of shit that is the majority of user created content. Speaking of shit user created content - people who make youtube videos about youtube videos, please just fuck off! Your stupid effects and bad jokes are just annoying, if I want to see a funny video I know where to look, if I want to watch someone pull out all the humour from a funny video, I'll watch your lame show. It's not hard to make a youtube video, but that doesn't mean that you should!
If only the 'net had a shittness filter.
Anyway, what kicked me over the edge was someone thought recording an instrumental cover of a blink-182 song and putting on youTube was a good thing. I'm all for people learning songs, and recording them if they want - it's all good practice. They can even play the songs to some people to see what they think. But when the description is a big apology for not being very good and badly recorded then you've got to wonder why they posted the damn thing in the first place! If you think it's crap, why would anyone else like it?
it's the same reason I don't follow people (on tumblr or twitter) that post too much, or post lame-ass shit about their personal lives, I even filter my facebook friends so I can cut out all those 'friends' I haven't spoken to since primary school. It's not that I don't like them, but their lives are irrelevant and uninteresting to me, just as I expect mine is too them. It's nice to know they're there if I ever need to get in touch, but I don't need to know what they had for diner.
Remember that there is a home for everything, especially on the net, as far as I'm concerned my tumblr is fairly impersonal, it's for random shit I think is cool or interesting. My blog (which is imported to facebook) is for wordy stuff and my thoughts - like this. Twitter is personal, but non-specific and is pretty much just what I'm doing or planning, and Facebook is for me to contact my friends. I'm a lazy texter, so I'm all about facebook!
Went a bit off-topic there... If you're filling up the internet with stuff that isn't awesome, then you're just adding to the endless sea of shit that is the majority of user created content. Speaking of shit user created content - people who make youtube videos about youtube videos, please just fuck off! Your stupid effects and bad jokes are just annoying, if I want to see a funny video I know where to look, if I want to watch someone pull out all the humour from a funny video, I'll watch your lame show. It's not hard to make a youtube video, but that doesn't mean that you should!
If only the 'net had a shittness filter.
08/04/2010
The Comfort Zone
The comfort zone is lovely place, it's all squishy and soft, warm and cosy, and when you leave it it can be very hard to be yourself. It happens quite often, but not as much as it should. It's something that you need to do every now and again, to check that you're pushing yourself hard enough, to look at yourself from the outside, and as a test to how you can cope no matter where you are.
Almost anything can push you out of your comfort zone, whether it's being left alone in a strange place, or not being in the right mood, not having the atmosphere, even having a cold. When you're at work or at home it's unlikely that you'll leave the zone, but when you're out with friends it can take just one thing to kick you out of it. Once that happens it can be quite a daunting place, and hard to get back again.
Perhaps the trick is not just to be able to survive outside the zone, but also to be able to extend the zone to where you are. To be able to go somewhere you don't fit in, or where you don't know anyone and just make yourself as at home as you would be anywhere else.
This may prove hard if people are less friendly, but once you get into a good conversation location is really quite irrelevent, your frame becomes more focused.
Re-framing is an excellent process, conducted in the mind and really is just looking at things from the bright side. If you don't get the job after an interview, instead of focusing on the negative sides, you can learn from the positives. You learnt that you need to work on your interview technique, or that a certain technique didn't work in that scenario. Every situation is framed by each person, and understanding another persons view can allow you to empathise, or find a way to make them see it your way.
It can also help get you back into your comfort zone - but then, so can alcohol. Up to you I guess...
Almost anything can push you out of your comfort zone, whether it's being left alone in a strange place, or not being in the right mood, not having the atmosphere, even having a cold. When you're at work or at home it's unlikely that you'll leave the zone, but when you're out with friends it can take just one thing to kick you out of it. Once that happens it can be quite a daunting place, and hard to get back again.
Perhaps the trick is not just to be able to survive outside the zone, but also to be able to extend the zone to where you are. To be able to go somewhere you don't fit in, or where you don't know anyone and just make yourself as at home as you would be anywhere else.
This may prove hard if people are less friendly, but once you get into a good conversation location is really quite irrelevent, your frame becomes more focused.
Re-framing is an excellent process, conducted in the mind and really is just looking at things from the bright side. If you don't get the job after an interview, instead of focusing on the negative sides, you can learn from the positives. You learnt that you need to work on your interview technique, or that a certain technique didn't work in that scenario. Every situation is framed by each person, and understanding another persons view can allow you to empathise, or find a way to make them see it your way.
It can also help get you back into your comfort zone - but then, so can alcohol. Up to you I guess...
09/02/2010
Girls who model...
I think this is gunna cause some controvesy - I don't mean it too, and I don't mean any offence - so please don't take any.
I have nothing against models, or modelling of any sort. Putting hot girls in clothes sure works, putting hot girls playing games works, putting hot girls near anything will help it sell. Putting hot girls anywhere will make people want to look at it!
But, I know a lot of girls who want to be models (some are doing pretty damn well, some are doing good, some who look gorgeous, some who look good)and it seems to me there's rather an overwhelming amount of them at the moment - meaning competition is harder so:
1) It's not that you're not pretty, it's that she's prettier.
Unless you're really arrogant you know there are going to be people who are better looking than you, and these people may well get the job. So don't get upset because you're too XXX for the job.
Also, remember who you are. Not everyone is the same style - I'm sure most of the girls I know want to model for Drop Dead or Babycakes or Johnny Cupcakes, but there's not a lot of spaces within those jobs. So, if you've got tattoos and piercings you're narrowing your own market so:
2) being alternative makes you stand out - not always a good thing
People need relate to the people selling them shit, so unless you're lucky enough to be selling alt gear, the alt look won't help much. Your style is something you can change, but one thing you can't is you. Plain and simple, if high and mighty is looking for models then someone like me (shortish and skinny) is just not gunna work! It may not be so obvious as that, but you could be stunning and not get it because your face is wrong so:
3) being you is enough for them to say no - it's not personal
Finally, the people that choose models probably look at thousands of people a week, going for a job seems a total lottery to me!
Still, if you're willing to get yourself an awesome portfolio of shots and go for every job that comes up you could well end up doing it and good on you.
I know I know fuck all about the modelling/fashion world, but that's my impression. I don't want you to think I'm some knob, I'm just putting my view out there, and all I see is girls upset by rejection letters (and a couple getting work!) and it makes me wonder.
I couldn't do it myself, I wouldn't like the rejection, and I'd hate to live in the hands of the casting people. I like to do things for myself, not be chosen!
well, it's possible that's all shite - I'm sure you'll tell me if it is :)
I have nothing against models, or modelling of any sort. Putting hot girls in clothes sure works, putting hot girls playing games works, putting hot girls near anything will help it sell. Putting hot girls anywhere will make people want to look at it!
But, I know a lot of girls who want to be models (some are doing pretty damn well, some are doing good, some who look gorgeous, some who look good)and it seems to me there's rather an overwhelming amount of them at the moment - meaning competition is harder so:
1) It's not that you're not pretty, it's that she's prettier.
Unless you're really arrogant you know there are going to be people who are better looking than you, and these people may well get the job. So don't get upset because you're too XXX for the job.
Also, remember who you are. Not everyone is the same style - I'm sure most of the girls I know want to model for Drop Dead or Babycakes or Johnny Cupcakes, but there's not a lot of spaces within those jobs. So, if you've got tattoos and piercings you're narrowing your own market so:
2) being alternative makes you stand out - not always a good thing
People need relate to the people selling them shit, so unless you're lucky enough to be selling alt gear, the alt look won't help much. Your style is something you can change, but one thing you can't is you. Plain and simple, if high and mighty is looking for models then someone like me (shortish and skinny) is just not gunna work! It may not be so obvious as that, but you could be stunning and not get it because your face is wrong so:
3) being you is enough for them to say no - it's not personal
Finally, the people that choose models probably look at thousands of people a week, going for a job seems a total lottery to me!
Still, if you're willing to get yourself an awesome portfolio of shots and go for every job that comes up you could well end up doing it and good on you.
I know I know fuck all about the modelling/fashion world, but that's my impression. I don't want you to think I'm some knob, I'm just putting my view out there, and all I see is girls upset by rejection letters (and a couple getting work!) and it makes me wonder.
I couldn't do it myself, I wouldn't like the rejection, and I'd hate to live in the hands of the casting people. I like to do things for myself, not be chosen!
well, it's possible that's all shite - I'm sure you'll tell me if it is :)
08/02/2010
Friends
Why do we have friends?
For an entirely selfish purpose really, friends help us feel better - whether it’s cheering you up when you’re sad, or just helping you to enjoy a good night out. Good friends will have a mutual relationship, both being able to rely on each for support, and for good times.
Sometimes it can be hard to be a good friend, if someone is going through a bad period, it may seem like a waste of time to keep on supporting them - but if you know they were a good friend, and will be again once they’re sorted out - it’s worth it. Think of your friends like torrent downloaders - there’s a seed/leech ratio. If someone is leeching from you, exhausting your energy and pulling you down, without ever supporting you, or making you smile - then that is a bad friend! Maybe their skills aren’t in making you laugh, but comforting you when you’re down, or even just making you feel good about yourself.
Just take a second to think about your friends, do they drag you down or lift you up? Are they really worthy of being your friend?
Now - think of yourself, do you do things to lift your friends? Or are you always bitching and moaning? Maybe today you go and do something nice for them, just a text to say how much you appreciate them, or making sure they’re ok. It’s so simple, but making people really is.
Finally - think about those people who really aren’t good friends and ask yourself - do I really need them?
For an entirely selfish purpose really, friends help us feel better - whether it’s cheering you up when you’re sad, or just helping you to enjoy a good night out. Good friends will have a mutual relationship, both being able to rely on each for support, and for good times.
Sometimes it can be hard to be a good friend, if someone is going through a bad period, it may seem like a waste of time to keep on supporting them - but if you know they were a good friend, and will be again once they’re sorted out - it’s worth it. Think of your friends like torrent downloaders - there’s a seed/leech ratio. If someone is leeching from you, exhausting your energy and pulling you down, without ever supporting you, or making you smile - then that is a bad friend! Maybe their skills aren’t in making you laugh, but comforting you when you’re down, or even just making you feel good about yourself.
Just take a second to think about your friends, do they drag you down or lift you up? Are they really worthy of being your friend?
Now - think of yourself, do you do things to lift your friends? Or are you always bitching and moaning? Maybe today you go and do something nice for them, just a text to say how much you appreciate them, or making sure they’re ok. It’s so simple, but making people really is.
Finally - think about those people who really aren’t good friends and ask yourself - do I really need them?
03/02/2010
Ties
An interesting thought:
Imagine you, and all the people you know are tied together with elastic, in the middle of a field - on one side of that feild is happiness, the other depression. This feild is littered with obstacles and challenges. There's many different routes, some that you can walk, others that are realy hard.
Now, think of the people you know and how they would help/hinder you. There will be some that will help to motivate you to get over the wall, others that will show you a different way around, some that will just watch, others that will tell you you're doing it wrong, some that'll just drag you back. The further away they are the stronger the elastic pulls.
Some people will switch, sometimes helping you, sometimes hindering. But work out who those that never change are - those that continue to help are your true friends, make sure you're pulling them forward as much as they do for you. And those that are always behind you, cut them out of your life. No one should have to deal the constant negativity that those people bring.
In my case I know I would have Sam helping me, inspiring me to enjoy myself and make the most of who I am, Scott will be showing the sceneic route, with great adventures. Forx will help me see the creative way I can progress, Jenn will sometimes pull me back, but when I hold steady she'll help pull me forward again. There's people I dare not mention, that continue to make me smile - they know who they are though. Then I will have others, all niggling around behind me, not holding me back much, but never helping me forward. I intend to cut these people out.
Imagine you, and all the people you know are tied together with elastic, in the middle of a field - on one side of that feild is happiness, the other depression. This feild is littered with obstacles and challenges. There's many different routes, some that you can walk, others that are realy hard.
Now, think of the people you know and how they would help/hinder you. There will be some that will help to motivate you to get over the wall, others that will show you a different way around, some that will just watch, others that will tell you you're doing it wrong, some that'll just drag you back. The further away they are the stronger the elastic pulls.
Some people will switch, sometimes helping you, sometimes hindering. But work out who those that never change are - those that continue to help are your true friends, make sure you're pulling them forward as much as they do for you. And those that are always behind you, cut them out of your life. No one should have to deal the constant negativity that those people bring.
In my case I know I would have Sam helping me, inspiring me to enjoy myself and make the most of who I am, Scott will be showing the sceneic route, with great adventures. Forx will help me see the creative way I can progress, Jenn will sometimes pull me back, but when I hold steady she'll help pull me forward again. There's people I dare not mention, that continue to make me smile - they know who they are though. Then I will have others, all niggling around behind me, not holding me back much, but never helping me forward. I intend to cut these people out.
Let me set a few things straight here...
Ok, had an argument with someone last night, I got rather angry and upset with them. Most of all I was dissapointed in myself for believing in them.
Anyway, I wanted to clear up a few of the points that wound me up.
1) Straight Edge does not have to include sex. There is no reference to sex in the original song, and for me being sXe is about not using a mindstate altering substance to change my personality. While many also become abstinant, this is not a necessity, just like vegitarianism/veganism. The choices are similar, and a lot of people will abide by all three, but there is no rule that says you must.
For me, Striaght Edge is No Drugs, No Alcohol, No Smoking FOR LIFE. If you tell me that I'm not Edge I will tell you to die. I've had enough.
2) People that sleep around are not necessarily bad people, in fact they often do less hurt than those in relationships. I know that while I did the girlfriend thing I hurt people, I broke up with people, I made mistakes. This all hurt people I cared for. Since I've stopped dating I've still hurt people, but I think I've hurt less people, in less serious ways than I would've if I had kept dating. I respect the people I sleep with, I make sure they understand what I'm about before I sleep with them, I don't lie, I don't con people into sex.
I'm not saying you should all do it, but if two people can enjoy themselves having casual sex, with no damage being done, then who is to say this is a bad thing?
Call me a slag, a ho, a whore, a tramp or whatever, but tell me that I'm a bad person because of it and I'll tell you to die. I've had enough.
3) I've actually changed one of my main beliefs because of the conversation last night. I used to believe that all people are completely equal, each is as good as any other, just in different ways. This has changed - I now believe that every person has the power to be as good as anyone else, but they must use what they've got. Simply sitting about bitching, not working or contributing is a total waste of human life, a waste of oxygen. I work hard on making myself a better person, I exercise, I compliment, I enjoy making people feel good about themselves and while I do slip, I try my best to make amends (even if these people don't deserve it).
Everyone can be better, but only some people try.
You get out what you put into this life
Anyway, I wanted to clear up a few of the points that wound me up.
1) Straight Edge does not have to include sex. There is no reference to sex in the original song, and for me being sXe is about not using a mindstate altering substance to change my personality. While many also become abstinant, this is not a necessity, just like vegitarianism/veganism. The choices are similar, and a lot of people will abide by all three, but there is no rule that says you must.
For me, Striaght Edge is No Drugs, No Alcohol, No Smoking FOR LIFE. If you tell me that I'm not Edge I will tell you to die. I've had enough.
2) People that sleep around are not necessarily bad people, in fact they often do less hurt than those in relationships. I know that while I did the girlfriend thing I hurt people, I broke up with people, I made mistakes. This all hurt people I cared for. Since I've stopped dating I've still hurt people, but I think I've hurt less people, in less serious ways than I would've if I had kept dating. I respect the people I sleep with, I make sure they understand what I'm about before I sleep with them, I don't lie, I don't con people into sex.
I'm not saying you should all do it, but if two people can enjoy themselves having casual sex, with no damage being done, then who is to say this is a bad thing?
Call me a slag, a ho, a whore, a tramp or whatever, but tell me that I'm a bad person because of it and I'll tell you to die. I've had enough.
3) I've actually changed one of my main beliefs because of the conversation last night. I used to believe that all people are completely equal, each is as good as any other, just in different ways. This has changed - I now believe that every person has the power to be as good as anyone else, but they must use what they've got. Simply sitting about bitching, not working or contributing is a total waste of human life, a waste of oxygen. I work hard on making myself a better person, I exercise, I compliment, I enjoy making people feel good about themselves and while I do slip, I try my best to make amends (even if these people don't deserve it).
Everyone can be better, but only some people try.
You get out what you put into this life
20/01/2010
The Reason Girls Aren't Happy... Maybe
Ok, so lots of things happen, and I'm often wrong - I don't think a single girl will agree with me on this, but as far as I can tell this is what is happening.
It's why dating doesn't exist anymore.
It might be easiest to explain this as a story...
Boy and Girl are at a club, they bump into each other at the bar and get talking, it all goes quite nicely, maybe they kiss maybe they don't - but they do exchange numbers. For the next couple of days they text, then it moves to facebook and onto msn. They feel like they're getting to know each other pretty well, the guy is charming and lovely and pretty ok looking. so, they go out on a date.
Pause
Right now the guy is thinking, score a date - we can see where this leads. Afterall that's what a date is, a chance to really get to know the other person, see if they're the kind of person you'd like to see more of.
But, the girl is thinking, (unless they're a total weirdo) that this is the start of the relationship, they can stop flirting with other boys, they can relax, it's boyfriend time.
Chances are they'll have sex pretty soon after this, as that's what couples do, but if that was what the guy was after then that girl is gunna be heartbroken, or even if the guy is looking for a relationship, what if he doesn't see her as the girl for him? It looks like he was just after sex anyway, and she gets heartbroken.
This is why I stopped doing dates - dates allude to something more - but that's not the point.
My point is that boys and girls are not at the same stages in a relationship at the same time until much later. And this is the fault of the girl. Yes, it is, because by delaying a date until you 'get to know them' on msn you're getting an emotional attachement. There isn't supposed to be a pre-date but now there is - and it's fucking people about. Boys getting trapped in relationships and girls getting hurt simply because of all the additional comunication. It's not one persons fault really - boys and girls are just on different pages (until the girl tells the boy off and skips him forward a few!)
To back-up my argument I asked the girls around me whether they'd meet up someone they'd met once in a bar, even after a lot of texts and a couple calls they all said no.
THAT IS WHEN A DATE IS SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN!
These girls said they'd like to meet up with them when with their friends, and get to know them better in that kind of safer environment - fair enough, but eventually, it's going to go to facebook etc. The girls expectations grows as they chat online, while the guys doesn't at all - because guys can't get attached to words on a screen. Then it comes to date time and the girls expectations are way higher - again leading to dissapointment.
I've seen this happen a lot of times, with either the guy trapped (sometimes happily) or the girl upset. And it's happening to me at the moment, building rapport with someone I don't want a relationship with, if I ever manage to convince her to see me she may already be beyond the attachment point, and will end up hurt :(
There's only a few ways to deal with this.
1) Girls, meet these guys a lot earlier, realise they're not quite as lovely as they seem online and give them a chance to obsess about you. Boys need face time - we have porn, so chatting about your cat is not gunna make us fall for you!
2) Boys, if you want a relationship with the girl - great, you've got it. If not - be brutally honest as soon as you possibly can be. The girl will hate the loss of romance and propect of something more, but she will respect your honesty. I've blown my chances a few times, but it's better to go home alone than hurt a girl.
GOT IT?
Oh, and don't give anyone who fucks you around, I'm sure you've all found that out the hard way, and probably will again.
It's why dating doesn't exist anymore.
It might be easiest to explain this as a story...
Boy and Girl are at a club, they bump into each other at the bar and get talking, it all goes quite nicely, maybe they kiss maybe they don't - but they do exchange numbers. For the next couple of days they text, then it moves to facebook and onto msn. They feel like they're getting to know each other pretty well, the guy is charming and lovely and pretty ok looking. so, they go out on a date.
Pause
Right now the guy is thinking, score a date - we can see where this leads. Afterall that's what a date is, a chance to really get to know the other person, see if they're the kind of person you'd like to see more of.
But, the girl is thinking, (unless they're a total weirdo) that this is the start of the relationship, they can stop flirting with other boys, they can relax, it's boyfriend time.
Chances are they'll have sex pretty soon after this, as that's what couples do, but if that was what the guy was after then that girl is gunna be heartbroken, or even if the guy is looking for a relationship, what if he doesn't see her as the girl for him? It looks like he was just after sex anyway, and she gets heartbroken.
This is why I stopped doing dates - dates allude to something more - but that's not the point.
My point is that boys and girls are not at the same stages in a relationship at the same time until much later. And this is the fault of the girl. Yes, it is, because by delaying a date until you 'get to know them' on msn you're getting an emotional attachement. There isn't supposed to be a pre-date but now there is - and it's fucking people about. Boys getting trapped in relationships and girls getting hurt simply because of all the additional comunication. It's not one persons fault really - boys and girls are just on different pages (until the girl tells the boy off and skips him forward a few!)
To back-up my argument I asked the girls around me whether they'd meet up someone they'd met once in a bar, even after a lot of texts and a couple calls they all said no.
THAT IS WHEN A DATE IS SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN!
These girls said they'd like to meet up with them when with their friends, and get to know them better in that kind of safer environment - fair enough, but eventually, it's going to go to facebook etc. The girls expectations grows as they chat online, while the guys doesn't at all - because guys can't get attached to words on a screen. Then it comes to date time and the girls expectations are way higher - again leading to dissapointment.
I've seen this happen a lot of times, with either the guy trapped (sometimes happily) or the girl upset. And it's happening to me at the moment, building rapport with someone I don't want a relationship with, if I ever manage to convince her to see me she may already be beyond the attachment point, and will end up hurt :(
There's only a few ways to deal with this.
1) Girls, meet these guys a lot earlier, realise they're not quite as lovely as they seem online and give them a chance to obsess about you. Boys need face time - we have porn, so chatting about your cat is not gunna make us fall for you!
2) Boys, if you want a relationship with the girl - great, you've got it. If not - be brutally honest as soon as you possibly can be. The girl will hate the loss of romance and propect of something more, but she will respect your honesty. I've blown my chances a few times, but it's better to go home alone than hurt a girl.
GOT IT?
Oh, and don't give anyone who fucks you around, I'm sure you've all found that out the hard way, and probably will again.
18/01/2010
I'm glad I'm not american
But I wish I lived there... the spoilt bastards.
http://snarkiest.tumblr.com/
Anyway, go read this blog for a giggle, it's written by some miserable girl who like to bitch about the 'scene' and how bitchy it is. It's this kind of thing that makes the scene so dreadful, but if you can get yourself a nice tumblr fanbase then you know you're doing things right eg: pop songs for 'alternative' girls.
Funny how it's all just the same again now, even metalcore is going pop, just got to wait for next BMTH album to feature Travis McCoy and Gabe Saporta :\
Lets hope bands like Architects don't follow the trend and stick to keeping it heavy.
Don't get me wrong, I like my pop-punk and mainstream rock, but when the 'scene' is listening to Metro Station you've got to worry who you're identifying with.
Like all alternative movements, they've got bigger, and more rediculous until they've collasped in on themselves leaving only a few of the hardcore left as a thwoback to times forgotten - just like that old barber with his greased back hair and leather jacket is a throw back to the teddy boys of the 50s, in 50 years will we still have proud emo boys, sporting their fringes, plugs and tattoos? Or will they all be hiding their idiotic youth beneath the latest BHS clothing?
I just want to know what's coming next, and when it'll be here. This latest trend is set to burst anyday now.
http://snarkiest.tumblr.com/
Anyway, go read this blog for a giggle, it's written by some miserable girl who like to bitch about the 'scene' and how bitchy it is. It's this kind of thing that makes the scene so dreadful, but if you can get yourself a nice tumblr fanbase then you know you're doing things right eg: pop songs for 'alternative' girls.
Funny how it's all just the same again now, even metalcore is going pop, just got to wait for next BMTH album to feature Travis McCoy and Gabe Saporta :\
Lets hope bands like Architects don't follow the trend and stick to keeping it heavy.
Don't get me wrong, I like my pop-punk and mainstream rock, but when the 'scene' is listening to Metro Station you've got to worry who you're identifying with.
Like all alternative movements, they've got bigger, and more rediculous until they've collasped in on themselves leaving only a few of the hardcore left as a thwoback to times forgotten - just like that old barber with his greased back hair and leather jacket is a throw back to the teddy boys of the 50s, in 50 years will we still have proud emo boys, sporting their fringes, plugs and tattoos? Or will they all be hiding their idiotic youth beneath the latest BHS clothing?
I just want to know what's coming next, and when it'll be here. This latest trend is set to burst anyday now.
22/12/2009
Who do you think I am?
The top layers may be transparent, but that doesn't mean you can see the bottom.
17/12/2009
New York part 4
DAY 9
Black friday - the day after Thanksgiving is well known for it's sales. We'd found this out earlier in the week, and to make the most of this, we saved all our shopping money till then. It's not the most exciting day, but I enjoyed it a lot! Two pairs of shoes, red/black/white Nike highs and Black/White Reeboks Highs, a pair of Levis, chocolate, cuddly toys, another pair of shoes from a secondhand shop White/lime Nike Highs and a brand new snowboard! At 70% off I really couldn't say no! I knew I'd have to pay an extra $50 on the flight back, but with all the other stuff I bought I would've ended up paying that anyway, it's a good thing my tee-s all fitted in the box with the board as my bag was full of shoes!
When we got back after an interesting metro ride home we dumped the stuff got some food and met up with the Uni guys from the night before. After a quickie in the local we headed back out to Brooklyn again, Barcade and Crocodile bar and Union Pool were all hit, before heading back to jump in the hot tub again. But oh no! The tub was out of action - so back down to the local to finish the last night of our trip in style and in comfort. Having picked up a few of the others from the hostel, and met more in the bar it was a pretty rowdy night of giggles.
Sandwhich and bed.
DAY 10
Our last day in NY, and we were feeling lazy, so we headed out to brooklyn, checked out a skate shop with a half pipe, and a massive (but too chic for us) secondhand store. Then we grabbed milkshakes and cookies and headed to the river shore again. While it was painfully cold and hard-to-stand windy it was good to say goodbye to Manhattan. It's an amazing place to be - if you've never been I seriously recomend it! Meeting up quickly with the girl from Santos we hit one last secondhand store and got another pair of Nike Highs (all white) then headed back to the hostel to chillax before the flight. Chilling and watching Anchorman - what better way to relax.
And then we went home...
I love NY and will be going back at some point, soon I hope!
Black friday - the day after Thanksgiving is well known for it's sales. We'd found this out earlier in the week, and to make the most of this, we saved all our shopping money till then. It's not the most exciting day, but I enjoyed it a lot! Two pairs of shoes, red/black/white Nike highs and Black/White Reeboks Highs, a pair of Levis, chocolate, cuddly toys, another pair of shoes from a secondhand shop White/lime Nike Highs and a brand new snowboard! At 70% off I really couldn't say no! I knew I'd have to pay an extra $50 on the flight back, but with all the other stuff I bought I would've ended up paying that anyway, it's a good thing my tee-s all fitted in the box with the board as my bag was full of shoes!
When we got back after an interesting metro ride home we dumped the stuff got some food and met up with the Uni guys from the night before. After a quickie in the local we headed back out to Brooklyn again, Barcade and Crocodile bar and Union Pool were all hit, before heading back to jump in the hot tub again. But oh no! The tub was out of action - so back down to the local to finish the last night of our trip in style and in comfort. Having picked up a few of the others from the hostel, and met more in the bar it was a pretty rowdy night of giggles.
Sandwhich and bed.
DAY 10
Our last day in NY, and we were feeling lazy, so we headed out to brooklyn, checked out a skate shop with a half pipe, and a massive (but too chic for us) secondhand store. Then we grabbed milkshakes and cookies and headed to the river shore again. While it was painfully cold and hard-to-stand windy it was good to say goodbye to Manhattan. It's an amazing place to be - if you've never been I seriously recomend it! Meeting up quickly with the girl from Santos we hit one last secondhand store and got another pair of Nike Highs (all white) then headed back to the hostel to chillax before the flight. Chilling and watching Anchorman - what better way to relax.
And then we went home...
I love NY and will be going back at some point, soon I hope!
16/12/2009
Sam has fun
Sam V says:
*..
*i've pooped two pairs of boxers man!
*what a good day
Teh-Rawr says:
*actually pooped yourself?
Sam V says:
*TWICE!
*rolled over in my sleep on two seperate occasions
*thought it was fart.
*thought it was safe.
*BAM
*wet bung hole
Teh-Rawr says:
*brrruuuuuutal
*..
*i've pooped two pairs of boxers man!
*what a good day
Teh-Rawr says:
*actually pooped yourself?
Sam V says:
*TWICE!
*rolled over in my sleep on two seperate occasions
*thought it was fart.
*thought it was safe.
*BAM
*wet bung hole
Teh-Rawr says:
*brrruuuuuutal
17/11/2009
Sexism in Rock
Is bullshit.
And if you think there is - you're wrong.
I've never played in a band that has been exclusively male, that fact the every performer has been a guy is only a reflection of the people available. If more girls played guitar (and I mean actually played guitar, not just had a pretty acoustic in the corner of their room) then I'm sure more girls would be in bands. It's a pretty simple link to make. Oh, and the same goes for racism, I don't give a shit where someone is from, who they are, what they do, so long as they're cool and can play their damn instrument properly.
In fact I've been in bands with Iranians, Asians, Greeks, the Welsh, Girls, Christians, Jews, Germans, Lesbians, Gays, Fat people, I'm even combining a few stereo types recently with a new project with an Asian Lesbian on guitar.
And guess what! It doesn't matter at all, she does her job and is cool. Nothing else to it.
People who like music don't care who make it - if it's genuine and makes you nod your head then that's all that matters.
And girls - if I hear you bitching about how hard it is for a girl in rock music, take a second and think whether if it's any harder for you than anyone else. And if I hear you bitching about how few girls there are, then I have only one question for you. What do you play?
Side note:
Emo songs about who evil girls are - I'll admit there's a fair few songs about girls that have broken boys hearts, but I'm sure the same is true for the other way around, plus the amount of shitty TV shows and films that put boys in the role of evil bastard more than makes up for it! Everyone hurts after a break up, I guess these guys just have the talent to get paid to sing about it!
Smile folks - music is made to be enjoyed :)
And if you think there is - you're wrong.
I've never played in a band that has been exclusively male, that fact the every performer has been a guy is only a reflection of the people available. If more girls played guitar (and I mean actually played guitar, not just had a pretty acoustic in the corner of their room) then I'm sure more girls would be in bands. It's a pretty simple link to make. Oh, and the same goes for racism, I don't give a shit where someone is from, who they are, what they do, so long as they're cool and can play their damn instrument properly.
In fact I've been in bands with Iranians, Asians, Greeks, the Welsh, Girls, Christians, Jews, Germans, Lesbians, Gays, Fat people, I'm even combining a few stereo types recently with a new project with an Asian Lesbian on guitar.
And guess what! It doesn't matter at all, she does her job and is cool. Nothing else to it.
People who like music don't care who make it - if it's genuine and makes you nod your head then that's all that matters.
And girls - if I hear you bitching about how hard it is for a girl in rock music, take a second and think whether if it's any harder for you than anyone else. And if I hear you bitching about how few girls there are, then I have only one question for you. What do you play?
Side note:
Emo songs about who evil girls are - I'll admit there's a fair few songs about girls that have broken boys hearts, but I'm sure the same is true for the other way around, plus the amount of shitty TV shows and films that put boys in the role of evil bastard more than makes up for it! Everyone hurts after a break up, I guess these guys just have the talent to get paid to sing about it!
Smile folks - music is made to be enjoyed :)
29/10/2009
Epic Post!
It seems to me that those that like metal often tend to be depressed people. Now I'm not stupid enough to take that to mean that the music has that much of an effect on the person. But more that the music may be a reaction of the person, away from the norm that they are not happy with.
People who do not feel they fit in, use the music as an escape, and the subculture to find more people that are similar situations.
Of course, there is no problem with this in principle, but the problem arrises when you have the patients nursing the patients. While the unity may be there, the support structure is made up of people who need support themselves. This can only lead to bad places. With so many people on anti-depressants these days how can it be that anyone is really happy?
I guess what I'm trying to say, is that by grouping together they may be making it worse for themselves - certainly, some of the shit that arrises when you mix two people that are fucked up together is spectacular.
Just to clarify, I'm not saying all people that like metal (or emo or whatever) are depressed, nor that everyone who is on anti-depressants is fucked up. Just saying, it's an interesting subculture, a trap into which too many people fall into.
On another note:
Have some respect people!
I know that bitching happens, and it's actually a healthy way to vent about someone without having an arguement. But it's when people start fucking others over that I get annoyed. Don't ditch your mates, don't sleep with you ex's mates, don't start a fight over nothing, and don't go stirring. If two people have a fight, listen to them bitch and moan, try to make them feel better, try to sort it out if you want. But don't go feeding the fire by telling the people what horrible things the other has said.
Think about the consequences of your actions, and think of how it would feel to have the same happen to you.
I just want people to be happy!
BTW - I apologise for everytime I've failed to empathise with someone, I know there have been occasions that I've done things that have screwed a friend over. My humblist apologies, I'll do my best not to do it again!
And on another other note:
Hollywood has ruined our expectations of life. Everyone wants to have a happily ever after, a group of friends that will never leave, a BFF, an amazing career as a rock star/secret agent. And it's simply unreasonable, no-one actually leads the lives portrayed in movies, and no-one believe that they do. But they implant in us, at a young age, the idea, the hope that our lives could someday be like that. It stays with us for life - and if you're lucky, it feeds your ambitions and helps to drive you forward. But for others it provides a very unfair comparison to their own lives.
Comparing your own life to a film is like comparing a pebble to a sausage. There are some loose similarities (they both weigh an amount, both can be thrown at a duck) but beyond that there's no point. So how about you compare your life with your own life. Weigh up the positives and negatives, realise what you have got, and appreciate it. Remember the silver lining, all you need to do is reframe things in order for them to become a positive influence in your life.
So, stop think how inadequate your life is, reverse that frame and look at how awesome it is really. Stop sulking - it's ungrateful :P
And finally:
I'm up in brum this weekend, early finish at work, on the train, then off to play games and chill out with the best friends a guy could ask for. Then to anarchy, where I will see so many more people, people I love and care for each in different ways. I will be in my element, with great music, great friends and great dance moves ;)
Saturday will be spent eating filthy greasy breakfast, maybe getting my lip peirced and seeing all the people I don't get to in the evenings - there's a few that are high on this list! Then, at the crazy early time of 5 I'll be heading off to see a crazy amount of crazy metal bands playing crazy metal songs with my crazy metal friend (yes he's a robot) Then I'll be whipping out the costume for a night of more friends, more tunes, and more moves.
I can't wait, and I hope to see as many of you out as possible. You should all know how to get in touch, even my mobile number is on my facebook page!
Be happy people :D I am :P
People who do not feel they fit in, use the music as an escape, and the subculture to find more people that are similar situations.
Of course, there is no problem with this in principle, but the problem arrises when you have the patients nursing the patients. While the unity may be there, the support structure is made up of people who need support themselves. This can only lead to bad places. With so many people on anti-depressants these days how can it be that anyone is really happy?
I guess what I'm trying to say, is that by grouping together they may be making it worse for themselves - certainly, some of the shit that arrises when you mix two people that are fucked up together is spectacular.
Just to clarify, I'm not saying all people that like metal (or emo or whatever) are depressed, nor that everyone who is on anti-depressants is fucked up. Just saying, it's an interesting subculture, a trap into which too many people fall into.
On another note:
Have some respect people!
I know that bitching happens, and it's actually a healthy way to vent about someone without having an arguement. But it's when people start fucking others over that I get annoyed. Don't ditch your mates, don't sleep with you ex's mates, don't start a fight over nothing, and don't go stirring. If two people have a fight, listen to them bitch and moan, try to make them feel better, try to sort it out if you want. But don't go feeding the fire by telling the people what horrible things the other has said.
Think about the consequences of your actions, and think of how it would feel to have the same happen to you.
I just want people to be happy!
BTW - I apologise for everytime I've failed to empathise with someone, I know there have been occasions that I've done things that have screwed a friend over. My humblist apologies, I'll do my best not to do it again!
And on another other note:
Hollywood has ruined our expectations of life. Everyone wants to have a happily ever after, a group of friends that will never leave, a BFF, an amazing career as a rock star/secret agent. And it's simply unreasonable, no-one actually leads the lives portrayed in movies, and no-one believe that they do. But they implant in us, at a young age, the idea, the hope that our lives could someday be like that. It stays with us for life - and if you're lucky, it feeds your ambitions and helps to drive you forward. But for others it provides a very unfair comparison to their own lives.
Comparing your own life to a film is like comparing a pebble to a sausage. There are some loose similarities (they both weigh an amount, both can be thrown at a duck) but beyond that there's no point. So how about you compare your life with your own life. Weigh up the positives and negatives, realise what you have got, and appreciate it. Remember the silver lining, all you need to do is reframe things in order for them to become a positive influence in your life.
So, stop think how inadequate your life is, reverse that frame and look at how awesome it is really. Stop sulking - it's ungrateful :P
And finally:
I'm up in brum this weekend, early finish at work, on the train, then off to play games and chill out with the best friends a guy could ask for. Then to anarchy, where I will see so many more people, people I love and care for each in different ways. I will be in my element, with great music, great friends and great dance moves ;)
Saturday will be spent eating filthy greasy breakfast, maybe getting my lip peirced and seeing all the people I don't get to in the evenings - there's a few that are high on this list! Then, at the crazy early time of 5 I'll be heading off to see a crazy amount of crazy metal bands playing crazy metal songs with my crazy metal friend (yes he's a robot) Then I'll be whipping out the costume for a night of more friends, more tunes, and more moves.
I can't wait, and I hope to see as many of you out as possible. You should all know how to get in touch, even my mobile number is on my facebook page!
Be happy people :D I am :P
16/09/2009
I've just realised how much of a pussy I've been in my blog lately. It's always been pretty negative, what with all the super big rants about shit that annoys me, but it wasn't so miserable. I live a very happy life, I enjoy my work, I enjoy where I live and I like the people I live with. I get to go out and see bands a lot, and I get to go with cool people, I even get to do things I've never done before as well as meeting new people nearly everyday. This life is not bad, so if you feel like it is, maybe it's time to make a change - a real change. I see no reason for a healthy adult to be enjoying themselves everyday - even if you're working there's ways to have fun! Just talk to someone!
Please be Happy people - I'd hate to be the only one ;)
Please be Happy people - I'd hate to be the only one ;)
Music, people and music.
MUSIC1
It's been too long, so here's a megapost to keep you filled till something else happens that makes me write something.
I've been going to lots of gigs lately, it's one of my favourite things about living in london, but last night was somthing special. i went with Rob (of I Have clones) to see Blakfish, a band we played with a few years back while still with Allucinere. They were supported by Bats, and another band I've forgotten the name of. To put it bluntly the show was incredible. Highly technical, emotional, dynamic music, the kind that just isn't seen elsewhere. All the bands had a similar style, but their own unique sound added to the mix, elements of so many genres thrown together to make this intelligent hardcore type thing.
It sure makes the poppier bands I saw on monday look rather tame by comparison. While all the bands had a good sound, and some great catchy tunes, it was nothing compared to the intensity and complexity of last night. I can understand why the music scene is so disperate, and seemingly unhealthy, as unoriginality seems to be a key way to make it big.
I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, maybe just that bands like Blakfish and Bats deserve to be so much bigger (not that they're not doing pretty damn well these days) especially while other bands on the UK touring circuit are actually quite shit. I suppose in many ways I'm happy that these bands aren't huge, as their whole style would be lost in a room too big, the intimacy lost. Maybe one day it'll all work itself out.
PEOPLE
My greatest happiness and the deepest depression comes from the effects of other people. I expect this is the same for everyone. I've said this many times before, that I'm certainly not a perfect person, I don't like upsetting people and when I do, I feel very bad about it. But there are some people that seem to take solace in the destruction of others. There is no reason to deliberately talk down about people, I understand that bitching occurs, it's something that happens a lot and is usually quite healthy. It allows you to exhaust your greivences about a person before it blows up further. No-one wants to know it happens about the as well, so I think most people don't pass on this information. I know for damn sure that I wouldn't tell someone about a person bitching about them. It causes unnessesary grief for all involved - which just ain't cool - it's shit stirring.
And then there's those that seem to need to tear others down in order to build themselves up. In game theroy this is called Amoging, taking the piss out of another guy to make you look cool, however in game therory this is used to get the girl. Not that that makes it ok, it's still for wankers that don't have the personality to impress girls normally. But to do it with the sole intention to stop the other man from talking to a girl. That's just spite. If you think I'm a dick, I don't care, but at least give other people the chance to come to that conclusion themselves - I'm pretty good doin it myself, I don't need jealous losers doing it for me.
Makes me glad I've moved sometimes, knowing that such people are now a much smaller part of my life.
MUSIC2
It seems to me that the issue of music piracy is still a very big deal, from Lilly Allen, to Lil Boosie bitching about how it's destroying the industry, to band members sending download links to fans just so they hear the songs. It's so hypocritical when it comes down to it, when an artist is just starting, they just want people to hear the songs, but when they get big (sometimes because they have some actual talent) it all becomes about the money. I can understand that people want the money they have worked for, and I work for the company that helps them! But you can't use file sharing to get yourself popular then denounce it when it's losing you money. I look forward to a day when artists are making music because they want to, not because it might pay well, use your talent - get paid for it if you can - but if you're rich enough to waste money on fucking stupid jewellery and 10 holidays a year, then you're rich enough to not worry about some downloads. People make the assumption that every single person that downloads an album would have otherwise bought said album. This is not the case! I expect less than a quarter of downloaders would have even thought about buying it.
Get over it people, you're not too important to face facts - how about you be thankfull that people want to listen to what you create. How about you be thankfull that anyone at all would pay for it! You're doing a lot better than a lot of others, so stop your whining.
FINALLY
Where's all the scene/emo kids in london? and don't say camden.
It's been too long, so here's a megapost to keep you filled till something else happens that makes me write something.
I've been going to lots of gigs lately, it's one of my favourite things about living in london, but last night was somthing special. i went with Rob (of I Have clones) to see Blakfish, a band we played with a few years back while still with Allucinere. They were supported by Bats, and another band I've forgotten the name of. To put it bluntly the show was incredible. Highly technical, emotional, dynamic music, the kind that just isn't seen elsewhere. All the bands had a similar style, but their own unique sound added to the mix, elements of so many genres thrown together to make this intelligent hardcore type thing.
It sure makes the poppier bands I saw on monday look rather tame by comparison. While all the bands had a good sound, and some great catchy tunes, it was nothing compared to the intensity and complexity of last night. I can understand why the music scene is so disperate, and seemingly unhealthy, as unoriginality seems to be a key way to make it big.
I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, maybe just that bands like Blakfish and Bats deserve to be so much bigger (not that they're not doing pretty damn well these days) especially while other bands on the UK touring circuit are actually quite shit. I suppose in many ways I'm happy that these bands aren't huge, as their whole style would be lost in a room too big, the intimacy lost. Maybe one day it'll all work itself out.
PEOPLE
My greatest happiness and the deepest depression comes from the effects of other people. I expect this is the same for everyone. I've said this many times before, that I'm certainly not a perfect person, I don't like upsetting people and when I do, I feel very bad about it. But there are some people that seem to take solace in the destruction of others. There is no reason to deliberately talk down about people, I understand that bitching occurs, it's something that happens a lot and is usually quite healthy. It allows you to exhaust your greivences about a person before it blows up further. No-one wants to know it happens about the as well, so I think most people don't pass on this information. I know for damn sure that I wouldn't tell someone about a person bitching about them. It causes unnessesary grief for all involved - which just ain't cool - it's shit stirring.
And then there's those that seem to need to tear others down in order to build themselves up. In game theroy this is called Amoging, taking the piss out of another guy to make you look cool, however in game therory this is used to get the girl. Not that that makes it ok, it's still for wankers that don't have the personality to impress girls normally. But to do it with the sole intention to stop the other man from talking to a girl. That's just spite. If you think I'm a dick, I don't care, but at least give other people the chance to come to that conclusion themselves - I'm pretty good doin it myself, I don't need jealous losers doing it for me.
Makes me glad I've moved sometimes, knowing that such people are now a much smaller part of my life.
MUSIC2
It seems to me that the issue of music piracy is still a very big deal, from Lilly Allen, to Lil Boosie bitching about how it's destroying the industry, to band members sending download links to fans just so they hear the songs. It's so hypocritical when it comes down to it, when an artist is just starting, they just want people to hear the songs, but when they get big (sometimes because they have some actual talent) it all becomes about the money. I can understand that people want the money they have worked for, and I work for the company that helps them! But you can't use file sharing to get yourself popular then denounce it when it's losing you money. I look forward to a day when artists are making music because they want to, not because it might pay well, use your talent - get paid for it if you can - but if you're rich enough to waste money on fucking stupid jewellery and 10 holidays a year, then you're rich enough to not worry about some downloads. People make the assumption that every single person that downloads an album would have otherwise bought said album. This is not the case! I expect less than a quarter of downloaders would have even thought about buying it.
Get over it people, you're not too important to face facts - how about you be thankfull that people want to listen to what you create. How about you be thankfull that anyone at all would pay for it! You're doing a lot better than a lot of others, so stop your whining.
FINALLY
Where's all the scene/emo kids in london? and don't say camden.
29/07/2009
People
Hello, I am a person.
Like all people, I have flaws (and plenty of them!) but in general I think I'm a pretty ok guy. But every now and again I come into contact with people that I really struggle with, people that are just plain horrible.
I don't understand these people, they're always miserable, seeming so unhappy with what they've got. Not only that, but they seem to want to bring everyone else down with them, as if somehow that'll make them seem better by comparison.
I don't live an ideal life, (what with the girls n all) but I don't hurt people on purpose, infact I avoid it as much as possible. I'm not great at it, but at least I don't attack others.
What I like most is meeting people, but I don't like meeting those people. It takes a lot to get me down, so when someone does, they were either very close, or very miserable!
Be happy people, and lets get on with our lives yeah?
Like all people, I have flaws (and plenty of them!) but in general I think I'm a pretty ok guy. But every now and again I come into contact with people that I really struggle with, people that are just plain horrible.
I don't understand these people, they're always miserable, seeming so unhappy with what they've got. Not only that, but they seem to want to bring everyone else down with them, as if somehow that'll make them seem better by comparison.
I don't live an ideal life, (what with the girls n all) but I don't hurt people on purpose, infact I avoid it as much as possible. I'm not great at it, but at least I don't attack others.
What I like most is meeting people, but I don't like meeting those people. It takes a lot to get me down, so when someone does, they were either very close, or very miserable!
Be happy people, and lets get on with our lives yeah?
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