I know the dating thing in this country is pretty much a history lesson now, but even if the 'date' is just meeting them with your/their mates at a club, or the oh-so-obvious come round and 'watch a dvd', it still pretty much applies.
1) If they're the kind of guy who is just after you for sex, then why hold out? If that's all he's into, then it's all he'll be into after two more dates. All you're doing is getting more attached to him, so it'll hurt more when he uses you and moves on. Go for it straight away, enjoy it while you can and the whole thing is over with much quicker.
2) You don't want to go on a whole bunch of dates and find out he's shit in bed.
3) No-one thinks it's slutty any more, people do it all the time, so just relax. So long as your date wasn't a quick snog against the wall at some dirt club then I think you'll dodge the slut thing.
4) It's fun, and if this is the guy you spend the rest of your life with, that's one more time you've had sex!
Most importantly, don't use sex as a tool in the relationship. If he's a great guy (which he must be if you like him) then he can probably get laid when he wants, so it's not that special. It can't be used to make him commit, it's essentially bribery, which is manipulation. And who wants a relationship which is based on that? Do you really only want to go out with a guy who only agreed to get laid?
You're setting yourself up for a fall...
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PS: That doesn't mean you should jump in their pants right away! Don't force the sex, just don't resist it.
PPS: Don't bitch you can't get guys if you keep going home with ones you met that night.
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