Don't get me wrong, I don't hate it for any particular reason, I just think it's generally a bad idea here's some reasons why
1) it's an expensive waste of time - you spend money on shit you don't need - cards end up in the bin, flowers wilt. (flowers are just as nice any other day, and less expensive!)
2) It's never balanced - one party will always spend/do more than the other, which can lead to several problems. The one who spent more feels unappreciated unloved or bitter, the one who is spoilt feels smothered, maybe scared of the level of commitment shown
3) It upsets other people, it's a massive festival that says 'sucks to be you' to everyone without a partner, which just ain't cool
4) It puts additional pressure on a new relationship. Guaging what to do for a new partner is always hard, you don't want to do too much, nor too little.
Yeah, that's why it sucks - I personally don't like to do too much, and if a girl went all out then I'd be very scared.
Here's what I suggest instead - Agree to spend nothing on each other, but instead show how much you love each other with personal gifts. Write them a letter, draw them a picture, make a collage of photos, write a song, fix that light in the bathroom they've been nagging about, do all the chores, something that shows you really care, not some shitty off the shelf romantic statement or a bunch of cliches.
Most importantly, remember - if you love someone, you will show them that everyday, not just valentines.
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